When you take time to listen to others without criticizing or lecturing you’re providing a safe and honest environment. We all need a place of refuge.
As important is love is to a marriage grace is even more so. Grace can transform your marriage and turn your home into a place of security, acceptance, and encouragement.
Chuck Swindoll has five principles for making a marriage stick:
- Cultivate complete honesty
- Express anger appropriately
- Don’t steal from your mate
- Guard your speech
- Be nice
Applying these to your marriage will breathe new life into it. It’s not too late to have a marriage that thrives.
“The first nine years of our marriage were constant hand-to-hand combat,” admitted a husband. If the truth were known, not some but most marriages are marked by periodic skirmishes—and occasionally all-out wars! Frequently, marital warfare occurs in the trenches of belligerence or moodiness or both. Some battles are night ambushes or surprise assaults. Others are cold wars of stoic silence. Cruel methods of torture are also employed: public criticism, fearful threats, intimidation, ugly sarcasm, and hateful remarks designed to put down one’s mate.
Every time you speak you either build up or tear down. So be careful with your words. Let your speech be the light of Christ.
When the calendar turns and we face a new year, many of us ask ourselves common questions. What changes will take place in my life this year? What difference will I make in the next 12 months? What faces will I not see at this time next year? Each of these questions causes us to reflect upon the most significant things in life—growth, meaning, and life versus death. Since Jesus offered His people abundant life, it makes sense for His people to reflect on such significant thoughts. What better time for reflection on the big questions than at the start of a new year?
Anger is a God-given emotion and it’s not necessarily sinful. The Bible acknowledges that anger needs safeguards and teaches us how to control it.
Living harmoniously as a family is an ongoing, intentional journey. The beginning of that journey is marked by great anticipation and genuine excitement. A bride and groom have high hopes and great dreams as they start out life together. However, as in all journeys, unexpected challenges pop up, including the arrival of children, which requires the couple to cultivate valuable parenting skills—without a handbook!
Chuck Swindoll has four suggestions to help us avoid feeling offended and they’re all rooted in the same concept. By shifting our perspective from horizontal (focusing on ourselves) to the vertical (focusing on God) we also avoid bitterness.
At a time when we have every reason to pull together and work in harmony to get the job done, it seems as though some would much rather weaken the ranks and hinder our effectiveness. Today, let’s go back to some of the basics that our indulged era seems to have forgotten.